\u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Uzman Klinik Psikolog Merve Umay Canda\u015f Demir, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik ve erteleme davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n psikolojik nedenleri, sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 ve bunlarla ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kma yollar\u0131 hakk\u0131nda bilgi verdi.<\/p>\n
M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015fi kendi zihninde yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u2018kusursuzluk ideali\u2019 ile m\u00fccadele eder!<\/p>\n
M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin, ki\u015finin kendi hayat\u0131nda ve i\u015flerinde \u2018hatas\u0131z\u2019 olma arzusuyla \u015fekillenen bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131 oldu\u011funu dile getiren\u00a0Uzman Klinik Psikolog Merve Umay Canda\u015f Demir, \u201cY\u00fczeyde bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda motive edici gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, asl\u0131nda \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ki\u015finin \u00fczerindeki bask\u0131y\u0131 art\u0131ran, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc k\u0131s\u0131tlayan ve ya\u015fam kalitesini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcren bir e\u011filimdir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Psikolojide m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin, sadece y\u00fcksek standartlar koymak olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, ayn\u0131 zamanda hata yapma korkusu, ele\u015ftirilme kayg\u0131s\u0131 ve \u2018yeterince iyi\u2019nin asla kabul edilmemesi gibi \u00f6zellikleri de kapsad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 vurgulayan Demir, \u201cKi\u015fi s\u00fcrekli daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 ister, ancak ula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 hi\u00e7bir sonu\u00e7 ona huzur vermez. Filozof Epiktetos\u2019un s\u00f6yledi\u011fi gibi; \u2018\u0130nsan\u0131 rahats\u0131z eden \u015feyler olaylar de\u011fil, onlar hakk\u0131ndaki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleridir.\u2019 M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015fi de \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ger\u00e7e\u011fin kendisiyle de\u011fil, kendi zihninde yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u2018kusursuzluk ideali\u2019 ile m\u00fccadele eder.\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
\u0130\u015fin b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc veya m\u00fckemmel olma zorunlulu\u011fu, ba\u015flamay\u0131 tehditk\u00e2r k\u0131labiliyor!<\/p>\n
Ertelemenin (prokrastinasyon), yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken bir i\u015fi bilin\u00e7li olarak geciktirme davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011funu aktaran\u00a0Uzman Klinik Psikolog\u00a0Merve\u00a0Umay\u00a0Canda\u015f Demir, \u201cBasit\u00e7e \u2018tembellik\u2019 de\u011fildir. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman ki\u015finin zihninde, i\u015fin b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ya da m\u00fckemmel olma zorunlulu\u011fu o kadar a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131r ki, ba\u015flamak tehditk\u00e2r gelir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Ertelemenin \u00f6zellikle hangi durumlarda s\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne de\u011finen Demir, \u201cBelirsizli\u011fin \u00e7ok oldu\u011fu g\u00f6revlerde, ki\u015finin y\u00fcksek kayg\u0131 hissetti\u011fi i\u015flerde ve sunum, s\u0131nav, rapor gibi sonucun d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan de\u011ferlendirilece\u011fi durumlarda erteleme davran\u0131\u015f\u0131na s\u0131k\u00e7a rastlan\u0131r.\u201d a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 yapt\u0131.<\/p>\n
Hata yapmaktan korkmak, bir i\u015fe ba\u015flamadan ertelemeye neden oluyor!<\/p>\n
Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131n, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin erteleme ile do\u011frudan ili\u015fkili oldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterdi\u011fine dikkat \u00e7eken\u00a0Uzman Klinik Psikolog\u00a0Merve\u00a0Umay\u00a0Canda\u015f Demir, \u201c\u00d6zellikle \u2018uyumsuz m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik\u2019 olarak tan\u0131mlanan t\u00fcr\u00fcnde ki\u015fi, hata yapmaktan \u00f6ylesine korkar ki, i\u015fi ba\u015flamadan ertelemeyi se\u00e7er.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Bu \u015fekilde ki\u015finin, asl\u0131nda ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131kla y\u00fczle\u015fmekten de ka\u00e7m\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funa i\u015faret eden Demir, s\u00f6zlerini \u015f\u00f6yle s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc:<\/p>\n
\u201cBir ba\u015fka deyi\u015fle; \u2018Ba\u015flamazsam ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z da olmam\u2019 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi hakimdir. Bu mant\u0131k, ki\u015fiyi k\u0131sa vadede kayg\u0131dan korur, fakat uzun vadede daha yo\u011fun stres, zaman bask\u0131s\u0131 ve \u00f6zg\u00fcven kayb\u0131na yol a\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n
\u00d6\u011frenciler ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlarda g\u00f6r\u00fclen alanlara bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda\u00a0\u00f6\u011frenciler i\u00e7in tez yaz\u0131m\u0131, s\u0131navlara haz\u0131rl\u0131k, \u00f6dev teslimi gibi s\u00fcre\u00e7lerde m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilikten kaynaklanan erteleme s\u0131k rastlan\u0131r.\u00a0\u00c7al\u0131\u015fanlar da ise sunum haz\u0131rl\u0131klar\u0131, raporlar, e-posta yaz\u0131m\u0131 hatta toplant\u0131lara katk\u0131 sunma gibi g\u00f6revlerde ki\u015fi \u2018yeterince iyi de\u011filim\u2019 kayg\u0131s\u0131yla i\u015fi erteler.\u201d<\/p>\n
De\u011fi\u015fimin ilk ad\u0131m\u0131 fark\u0131ndal\u0131k!<\/p>\n
Ki\u015finin kendi m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini fark etti\u011finde, erteleme ile ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kma \u015fans\u0131n\u0131n artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade eden\u00a0Uzman Klinik Psikolog\u00a0Merve\u00a0Umay\u00a0Canda\u015f Demir, \u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc fark\u0131ndal\u0131k, de\u011fi\u015fimin ilk ad\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131 art\u0131rmak i\u00e7in yap\u0131labilecekler hakk\u0131nda bilgi veren Demir, \u201cKusursuzluk yerine, i\u015flevsel ve yeterli olan\u0131 kabul etmek gerekir. Yani \u2018yeterince iyi\u2019 kavram\u0131 benimsenmeli. G\u00f6revleri par\u00e7alara ay\u0131rarak b\u00fcy\u00fck resmi de\u011fil, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ad\u0131mlar\u0131 g\u00f6rmek kayg\u0131y\u0131 azalt\u0131r. Bir i\u015fe sonsuz vakit ay\u0131rmak yerine, belirli bir s\u00fcrede tamamlamak i\u00e7in hedef belirlenmeli. Hata yapmak \u00f6\u011frenme s\u00fcrecinin par\u00e7as\u0131 olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclmeli. Bir \u015fark\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6zlerinde \u2018yaralar\u0131m\u0131zdan \u0131\u015f\u0131k s\u0131zar\u2019 ifadesi ge\u00e7er. Hata yapmak, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman geli\u015fimin kap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 aralar. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik yo\u011fun kayg\u0131, t\u00fckenmi\u015flik ya da depresyon ile birlikteyse bir klinik psikolog deste\u011fi olduk\u00e7a faydal\u0131 olur.\u201d \u00f6nerilerinde bulundu.<\/p>\n
Ya\u015fam\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc kusursuzluk de\u011fil, tamamlanmam\u0131\u015f ama ilerleyen bir s\u00fcre\u00e7\u2026<\/p>\n
M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bir \u2018alt\u0131n kafes\u2019 oldu\u011funu kaydeden Uzman Klinik Psikolog Merve Umay Canda\u015f Demir, \u201cPar\u0131ldar ama i\u00e7inde s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kal\u0131r\u0131z. Erteleme ise bu kafesten \u00e7\u0131kmak i\u00e7in se\u00e7ti\u011fimiz ge\u00e7ici ama yan\u0131lt\u0131c\u0131 bir ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f yoludur.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Oysa ya\u015fam\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn kusursuzluk de\u011fil, \u2018tamamlanmam\u0131\u015f ama ilerleyen bir s\u00fcre\u00e7\u2019 oldu\u011funun alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen Demir, \u201cKendi kusurlar\u0131m\u0131zla bar\u0131\u015fabildi\u011fimizde, ertelemek yerine ad\u0131m atabilir; hem \u00fcretkenli\u011fimizi hem de ya\u015fam doyumumuzu art\u0131rabiliriz.\u201d diyerek s\u00f6zlerini tamamlad\u0131.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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Kaynak: (BYZHA) Beyaz Haber Ajans\u0131<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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